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you pair of douchebags.

the saga continues:

A diplomat accused of “dumping” his adopted daughter flew home yesterday after triggering a row about the ethics of Europeans adopting Asian children.

Jade, a seven-year-old of South Korean origin, is the focus of an escalating dispute across two continents. At the age of four months she was adopted by a Dutch consular officer based in Hong Kong, Raymond Poeteray, and his wife Meta. But the couple have now surrendered Jade to the Hong Kong social welfare department for readoption, reportedly because the child could not adapt to Dutch culture.

The revelation has sparked protests amid claims that the couple were treating the child as if she were an unwanted present. She had been discarded like “a piece of household rubbish”, said the Dutch daily De Telegraaf. (I agree)

Mr and Mrs Poeteray, back in the Netherlands yesterday, defended their actions, claiming that they had acted on medical advice.

Mr Poeteray, 55, said that when the family moved from Indonesia to Hong Kong three years ago, “medical specialists” said that Jade had “serious bonding problems”. (dumbest excuse ever)

They had embarked on family therapy, but without success. “To our great disappointment, things didn’t get better, they got worse, and the rest of the family began to suffer hugely from that,” he said. The couple have an older son, and a younger child born after Jade’s adoption. (initially, they claimed to have adopted her because they couldn’t have kids of their own.)

By the middle of last year they were being urged by doctors, social workers and the adoption agency, Mothers Choice, to place the child in temporary care, the diplomat said in an open letter to De Telegraaf.

“Although the specialists now think it is not possible that Jade can be brought home, we continue to hope. We will do our best to find a solution allowing her to find happiness in her life,” he wrote. “This is a private matter, for which we as parents bear the responsibility . . . the publicity itself is already painful enough, but what’s worse is it doesn’t help us find a solution for our problems.”

The Poeterays never applied for Dutch citizenship for Jade, but claim that this was an administrative oversight. (liar liar pants on fire.)

The family’s plea for privacy and understanding has been ignored. Online chatrooms have hosted hundreds of comments about the case, most of which condemned the actions of a public servant paid to represent his country. “Of course a child that has been given away for adoption is going to have a fear of emotional bonding!” said Anna, from Lelystad, on the De Telegraaf website.

Another said: “What would they have done if their own children had been sick? Would they have given them away? This man is sick himself – can’t he be given away?”

The Dutch Foreign Ministry, embarrassed by the international fuss, has recalled the diplomat for consultations but is standing by him. Many Dutch bloggers, however, argue that he has committed an offence against natural justice and that he should resign from the diplomatic service.

One blogger found a reference to a party that the Poeterays held in January 2005 in which one grateful guest thanked the diplomat, “his lovely wife Meta and young son Jamie”. There was no mention of Jade, suggesting that she was not fully accepted as a member of the family.

The hostility is in part because the case has stoked up lingering suspicions about the commitment of Europeans to adopted Asian children. Two years ago an Irish couple caused outrage in Asia when they returned a child to an Indonesian orphanage, saying that she did not fit in.

National pride is at stake and some Asian governments fear that they could end up in tangles similar to those experienced by African countries unless tighter guidelines are introduced. (It’s not about national pride, it’s about being a freaking human being.)

The South Korean Consulate in Hong Kong said that Mr and Mrs Poeteray had complained that Jade was not adapting to Dutch culture or food. “That is the reason they gave for why they want to discontinue the relationship,” a South Korean official said.

This was met with incredulity. “ They adopted her when she was a baby,” said Law Chi-kwong, a professor at the department of social work at Hong Kong University. “They are responsible for shaping the child’s mind and culture. How can you say that the child cannot adapt to the culture in which she was raised?”

Dutch newspapers tracked down a former babysitter yesterday who took care of Jade when she was a baby in Indonesia. She too was bemused by the fate of the little girl whom she remembers as a quiet but normal child. “I took care of her in the evenings, while an Indonesian woman was with her in the daytime,” she told De Telegraaf. “But Meta did not treat as her real daughter.”

The Hong Kong authorities are searching for new adoptive parents. Jade speaks Cantonese and English and, despite the claims that she could not communicate with her parents, some Dutch. (article)

It’s funny how people holding such high positions could be the biggest tools ever. You’d think they can take some of their intelligence and invest it in areas that count.

Judge Saad al-Muhanna from the Qatif General Court.

(a)”19-year-old victim was sentenced last year to 90 lashes for meeting with an unrelated male, a former friend from whom she was retrieving photographs. The seven rapists, who abducted the pair, received sentences ranging from 10 months to five years in prison.

The victim’s attorney, Abdulrahman al-Lahim, contested the rapists’ sentence, contending there is a fatwa, or edict under Islamic law, that considers such crimes Hiraba (sinful violent crime) and the punishment should be death.

“After a year, the preliminary court changed the punishment and made it two to nine years for the defendants,” al-Lahim said of the new decision handed down Wednesday. “However, we were shocked that they also changed the victim’s sentence to be six months in prison and 200 lashes.”

The judges more than doubled the punishment for the victim because of “her attempt to aggravate and influence the judiciary through the media,” according to a source quoted by Arab News, an English-language Middle Eastern daily newspaper.(CNN)

The world should not be run by old men, they only screw everything up with their backwards thinking.

Judge Saad al-Muhanna = douchebag = go to hell.

update: “– Saudi King Abdullah has pardoned a rape victim who had been sentenced to 200 lashes and six months in prison in a case that sparked international attention, a Saudi newspaper has reported….

Seven men, convicted of abducted the pair and raping her, were sentenced to two to nine years in prison.

Abdul Rahman al-Lahim, the lawyer who represented the woman, faced a disciplinary hearing for “insulting the Supreme Judicial Council and disobeying the rules and regulations” of the judiciary. The hearing has been postponed….

Al-Lahim has said he hopes the case changes the Saudi justice system.

“We want to highlight the rape crimes in Saudi Arabia and the way they are handled and sentenced in court,” he added. “This is a new era for all of us.”

He said that the rape case had elicited a fierce response, including calls for his beheading.” (CNN)

Abdul Rahman al-Lahim gets the award for having the biggest balls in Saudi Arabia and Judge Saad al-Muhanna, you’re still a douchebag. Burn in dung hell.

Muhammad Parvez for killing his 16-year-old daughter for not wearing a hijab.

Her father, Muhammad Parvez, 57, was arrested at the scene and will be formally charged with murder when he appears in court Wednesday, said police.

The girl’s friends, meanwhile, told local media she was having trouble at home because she did not conform to the family’s religious beliefs and refused to wear a traditional Islamic head scarf, or hijab.

“She wanted to go different ways than her family wanted to go, and she wanted to make her own path, but he (her father) wouldn’t let her,” one of her classmates told public broadcaster CBC. (article1)

They actually strangled her to death. I don’t care what religious faith you believe is special, you kill a child then you should go straight to hell.

“Mother is the name of God on the lips and hearts of all children.” -Eric Draven …

His wife can go straight to hell too.

“This is the type of tragedy that shakes you to your very core – as a person, as a parent, and as a Muslim,” said Ansar Ahmed, of the Newmarket Mosque, in a statement. “This was a bright young girl whose only worry should have been friends and homework. Instead, it appears the last few weeks of her life were marred by anguish and conflict.”

It’s “truly bewildering” if the girl’s feelings about the hijab played any role in her slaying, Ahmed added.

“Acts of faith, whatever they may be, have to come from within – they cannot be imposed on anyone, if they are, they are not true acts of faith,” he said. (article 2)

…A 7-year-old-girl is being hailed as an “angel from heaven” and a hero for jumping in front of an enraged gunman, who pumped six bullets into the child as she used her body as a shield to save her mother’s life.

Alexis Goggins, a first-grader at Campbell Elementary School, is in stable condition at Children’s Hospital in Detroit recovering from gunshot wounds to the eye, left temple, chin, cheek, chest and right arm.

“She is an angel from heaven,” said Aisha Ford, a family friend for 15 years who also was caught up in the evening of terror…(article)

Leave it to a child to do the most human thing when they aren’t jaded by experiences that make most adults more childish than a 7 year old. The douche-bag award goes to…Calvin Tillie as well for shooting a 7 year old.

He can go straight to hell.

A Dutch couple who spent 7 years raising a South Korean girl, only to give her up because they are quitters.

A Dutch couple has sparked outrage by giving up a seven-year-old South Korean girl they adopted as a baby – after claiming she didn’t “fit in” with their life-style….

…The girl, who speaks English and Cantonese but not Korean, is neither a Dutch citizen nor a Hong Kong resident, so her future in the territory is uncertain…

…The diplomat told reporters, who agreed to his anonymity, that his family was struggling to cope with their decision and said his wife was having therapy. (Because what the wife isn’t experiencing is abandonment from a bunch of douche-bags who are treating a 7 year old human being like a puppy they aren’t responsible enough to take care of.)

…But the plight of the girl has sparked anger among social workers and many of the seven million people living in the territory….

…”It’s bizarre. I don’t think it has anything to do with cultural shock,” said Law Chi-kwong, an associate professor at the University of Hong Kong’s Social Work department…

…The child grew up with them. They adopted her when she was a baby; they are responsible for shaping the child’s mind and culture….

…”How can you say the child cannot adapt to the culture in which she was raised? This is just ridiculous.”… (article)

But in the end, it’s better off that the girl does not stay with a pair of douchebags. I may not know the exact details on what these Dutch douches are about, but when you strip their actions down to the basics…they are discarding a 7 year old child who saw them as parents. Once abandoned is mendable, twice will leave a scar.

It is good to hear that the Hong Kong residents are responding rather well to the story and a slew of families have already stepped forward looking to adopt the child. Even still, those two dutch douches can go straight to hell.

I guess if there’s one thing that the Korean Wave can’t influence is it’s own society. After reading the entry and the comments given by others, South Korean cops are still pigs and their justice system is still asshole glorious. No wonder there has been such on going pull for Korea’s society to be more humane toward foreigners…

Marmot’s Blog Entry:

Winters…an American law student here in Korea, described the attack in detail on her mini homepage. Two years ago, she returned one night to her one-room apartment to find that an unknown man had broken into her home through a window. When she froze up, the attacker rushed her and beat her about the face.

Luckily, as the assailant went to the kitchen to get a knife, she was able to escape to the bathroom. She locked herself in and called the police, but when police arrived, the attacker had already fled.

The attack left her with a cerebral hemorrhage, a fractured skull and a broken nose.

When she got to the hospital, however, she was forced to undergo further humiliation. The hospital mistook her for a Russian prostitute, and did not treat her injuries properly. She was apparently told that the hospital could not move her to an intensive care unit until she proved she wasn’t a prostitute. (Because not helping an injured prostitute is the right thing to do.)

…She’s now preparing to become an international lawyer so that there will be no more victims like her, and that it was hard to find sex crime facilities for foreign women in Korea or English-speaking psychologists.

The “S” and “K” in S.Korea sure seems to stand for Stupid and Korrupt lately….Anyways, one good thing about this blog entry is through shirasony who had a similiar experience..but got some retribution:

I’m a white American woman who, unfortunately, is not blond, slim, nor attractive and was assaulted while exiting a subway station in Seoul some time ago. I immediately called my husband (a Korean national)after it happened and met him at the local police station. The police officer, (apparently the detail that the person helping me file a complaint was my husband did not register) commented that “why should he care … she’s a foreigner! (after saying that her) husband proceeded to punch the officer in the mouth! Since my husband is also in law enforcement and out-ranked him I received an apology from the station commander and (they did) a follow-up on the assault. (they found out that) 15 women (Korean and western) were attacked; the man was picked up and charged and committed to a mental hospital.

Also, Winters makes a blog appearance:

Koreans have all reacted very supportive. As far as I know, no one has really said anything bad about it. The surprising thing is how many admit that the system is fucked up or who have experienced similar mistreatment themselves.

On the other hand, I know for a fact that another member who wrote on a blog defending me and my story and expressing her outrage over the lack of coverage due to the jamila saga is currently getting reemed by “anti-fans.” It is just so terrible that people cannot recognize what is important. Entertainment is entertainment, but real issues are real issues…

….All people don’t really get the true meaning of what relevancy this issue has to their lives until their lives are affected by it. I am sure the family of the girl murdered by the same man I am convinced attacked me understands it. Some day all of those others will too.

And yes, I sincerely hope to get laws changed here, among other things. It has been my goal since day one , not only to get victim’s rights laws passed, but also to have rape crisis/victim’s rights centers established, standardized SANE hospital screening , among others. Channels of accountability is what needs to happen here in Korea.

Stupid cops and rapists in Korea, there is just no difference between the two because they end up working together. This is just one of those things that makes me want to go South Korea and smack everyone upside the head and say, “what the f*ck is wrong with you?” I applaud Winter for what she’s doing and using whatever means necessary to make a difference because it sure doesn’t seem like Korea is going to do it itself. The cops didn’t even bother taking a strand of hair for DNA sampling until the US embassy got involved…..freaking incompetent douche bags.

Saudi punishes gang rape victim with 200 lashes

A court in the ultra-conservative kingdom of Saudi Arabia is punishing a female victim of gang rape with 200 lashes and six months in jail, a newspaper reported on Thursday. The 19-year-old woman — whose six armed attackers have been sentenced to jail terms — was initially ordered to undergo 90 lashes for “being in the car of an unrelated male at the time of the rape,” the Arab News reported….(rest of the article)

the world is insane.

as the shittiest human being celebrty land has to offer?

He’s the surgeon who’s responsible for sending Kanye’s West mom home to her death after cosmetic surgery rather than the recovery room. According to my morning drive to work with Harve of TMZ.com talking on Kroq radio…that doctor is one shady motherfu…r.

The doctor who performed surgery on Kanye West’s mother was booked on some big TV shows, but it appears none of the producers knew about his malpractice suits, allegations of sexual battery and physical assault, DUI convictions and pending disciplinary action before the Medical Board of California.

It took TMZ three hours to turn up the goods on Dr. Adams. So why were Oprah, Discovery Health, NBC and others in the dark? We asked for comment. Watch the piece that aired tonight on TMZ TV and judge for yourself.

TMZ

So this psychopath with a license raped one of his patients, butchered a bunch of women (did 4 procedures in one sitting on one woman), left a sponge in one patient for 2 years, choked his ex-wife, and moves office to office so he wouldn’t have to pay any settlements.

Let’s see how Oprah gets out of this one…